Just do it!

[Intensity]

A while back i had a conversation with someone from MU on msn about the techniques to approach and pickup. I know it sounds easy but when it comes to the actual 'doing it', it just seems that extra hard. Depending on who i'm with, sometimes i would feel this nervousness inside me, i would have butterfly in me in overdrive. But think this are a few advices that would really help yourself in getting that extra anti-shy thingy.

quote: Be assertive, goes in without a worry, and acts asif your in command.

quote: you gotta have the right amount of self confidence, not too much, and not too less. And just have fun, it aint a seriouse thing.

quote: If there is still some self-doubt then think about this: "You'll never see them again...You only live once so go for your life;) "

So in the end just do it, go ahead take the chance if you get rejected, then so what. It's better to have known that you had the confidence to approach and know whether or not they have interest in you then not knowing. Life is too short, go out and live it. Remember in the end your biggest barrier to success is yourself, so make life easier by getting rid of that!

GL!:thumb:

[Tekkaholic_Andre]

Sik kent, oi post the whole convo up....

[shaheen]

Yeah thats what a mate told me as well. Exact same words, go for your life, you got nothing to lose everything to gain, give it a shot, if you're rejected move along. that person just wasn't worth your time then.

[denis]

i got a bit of advise aswell, if they reject you, think of it as their loss, not yours.

[brown sugar miki]

Not sure if this is on topic but can i just say.. the reason why some girls dont make the first move isnt because theyre afraid of being rejected. Its because they dont wanna seem desperate. Well thats the case with me anyway.

[[ U N ] _ m c n z ]]

"how'd you do that?"
"what"
"uhh...."
*waits*
"me and my friend were just...uhhh"
haha :P

[Thommo_Raver]

^baha thats the exact same way i think EDIT: to mikasha

the thing is i dont go asking around too much, never really
cause of that chance of rejection, its not a so what thing imo, ts more of a self-esteem issue

some others may thing if one says no wats the chance of another saying yes?

and the other thing is with rejection u feel like an ass and an outcast
so yah

i got a bit of advise aswell, if they reject you, think of it as their loss, not yours.
lmao

[.:MARK:.]

'Just do it'; the best advice you can give. Simple!
Yes the chance of rejection then the feel of it can put you down but should never make you not have another go.
Put it in this situation though, if a girl was giving you looks, it may boost the confidence a little, but if you don't 'do it' you'll never know if you could have got that person. So, once again, JUST DO IT!

[LOVEJ]

yea, nike was right...

[_Jay Dee]

I got good advice but its all mineeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :)

[Cole]

smile at them when they give you eye contact, if they smile away and laugh, have a shot. If they pretend you don't exist (they will then find you ugly/annoying etc) then don't have shot.
I've done this twice and got 1 rejection and 1 score.

[denis]

yeah i agree with cole, look for eye contact, but most of all be confident.

[Intensity]

Sik kent, oi post the whole convo up....
and this was the part i left out:
The Art of Picking up... 1. Roll in style, you need to walk with a "high-roller" Aura about you. 2. DONT be a Hero. 3. Always remain polite, and thoughtful (Even if your cursing under your breath) 4. Dont keep it all seriouse, crack some Jokes and REMEMBER theres a time for everything. 5. NEVER PUSH 6. NEVER brag. 7. Talk about them, and get them to open up to you 8. NEVER LEAD A GIRL ON, or pretend to have feelings for em, thats just mean and i hate people like that... 9. Dont be stingy, Spoil her;) 10. Keep them the center of attention. 11. Before making a initial move, drop the hints, so u dont scare them! 12. Dont Spit, Fart, Belch or anything of the sorts around them in public. 13. Compliments will ALWAYS help, unless you got busted screwing her sister. 14. NEVER say something you dont mean..Or cant hold your word to! 15. Dont Make up **** to look good, you'll get caught!


Tek: Why do you think Mike Jones picks-up?

Tek: Hes assertive, goes in without a worry, and acts asif hes in command

Inten: who's mike jones?"

Tek: uglyiest kent ever

_ m c n z ]']"how'd you do that?"
"what"
"uhh...."
*waits*
"me and my friend were just...uhhh"
haha :P

bad memories! :neutral: But the light side was they werent even hot.

[shaheen]

^baha thats the exact same way i think EDIT: to mikasha

the thing is i dont go asking around too much, never really
cause of that chance of rejection, its not a so what thing imo, ts more of a self-esteem issue

some others may thing if one says no wats the chance of another saying yes?

and the other thing is with rejection u feel like an ass and an outcast
so yah


lmao
Same reason I've never approached a girl. Self-esteem issues.

[denis]

youve never approached a girl?

[shaheen]

Nope. Never. Well not approached in that sense like you guys mentioned, but I have told girls some how I've liked them, and I've been rejected most of the time. But I've never gone up to a girl and ****.

[denis]

thats bad dude, i think most of us have self esteem issues.
but its confidence that gets you the girls.

[Mecha]

Or you can take my advice: sit on your ass, don't do **** and just wait for them to make an effort :)

That actually works like a charm.

[shaheen]

Thats cause you're a stunner even while wearing an oversized sumo fat suit.

[mz_habibii]

Not sure if this is on topic but can i just say.. the reason why some girls dont make the first move isnt because theyre afraid of being rejected. Its because they dont wanna seem desperate. Well thats the case with me anyway.

Yeah thats with me to. And i dislike leting a guy know that i think their hot kuz i hate it when they get like a big head about it. I'm the best at getin number's for ma friends tho :)

[Cole]

i just wink at random girls at clubs and they get all embarrassed. It's funny as.
but anyway, mickeys style is to get his arm around them and ask "do you wanna dance."
not a bad idea actually.. What do you girls reckon?

[denis]

iv never seen you wink at a girl in my entire life cole,
i just go up to them, grab there ass and say, **** me bitch.
it works, trust me.

[brown sugar miki]

^it depends if they were sweaty or not.

[JUZT!N]

tease is a slut gets all the girls and never leaves me any

[heidi]

More like, JUST DID IT!! AMIRITE? LOLZZ

[Cole]

iv never seen you wink at a girl in my entire life cole,
i just go up to them, grab there ass and say, **** me bitch.
it works, trust me.

Well, it's not an easy thing to notice is it? I mean, it goes for about 0.1 of a second, and i don't try get your attention when i do it.
If i did do it, it's not something that you'd remember anyway.
I did it at embrace a couple of times.

[denis]

Well, it's not an easy thing to notice is it? I mean, it goes for about 0.1 of a second, and i don't try get your attention when i do it.
If i did do it, it's not something that you'd remember anyway.
I did it at embrace a couple of times.
cole your pretty slick, i wish i was as smooth as you :)

[mЯ Fcùķŋ ЯavėR]

Well, first, why not impress them with a bit of crippin and poppin, afterwards you get some girls come up to you and tell you, you danced well. Then tell them thankyou and then ask them if they want to see you "dirty dancing" tehy say yes (most of the time) then you take it from there :)

[greekangel27]

^^ they seriously say yes?? dear god!

[CoolDude]

A while back i had a conversation with someone from MU on msn about the techniques to approach and pickup. I know it sounds easy but when it comes to the actual 'doing it', it just seems that extra hard. Depending on who i'm with, sometimes i would feel this nervousness inside me, i would have butterfly in me in overdrive. But think this are a few advices that would really help yourself in getting that extra anti-shy thingy.

quote: Be assertive, goes in without a worry, and acts asif your in command.

quote: you gotta have the right amount of self confidence, not too much, and not too less. And just have fun, it aint a seriouse thing.

quote: If there is still some self-doubt then think about this: "You'll never see them again...You only live once so go for your life;) "

So in the end just do it, go ahead take the chance if you get rejected, then so what. It's better to have known that you had the confidence to approach and know whether or not they have interest in you then not knowing. Life is too short, go out and live it. Remember in the end your biggest barrier to success is yourself, so make life easier by getting rid of that!

GL!:thumb:

You gotta be confident! Confidence shows that you have been succesful in the past and therefore you are confident now.

You should not care whether the girl likes you or snubbs you. Whats the worst gonan happen? She will not give you any time, you try your best, turn around and go back to your mates. She wont kill you and you wont drop dead.

Approaching in the right situation. Dont approach when you see she is busy with her friends and having a very important conversation. Do it when you see she is bored or not doing anything.

Engage eye contact prior approaching, this works well as it warms up the set for you, you may still approach with her seeing you but this can be overall harder to pull of.

And most important of all, have fun!

I teach this on a daily basis so if any guys have more questions come check out my site, or PM me directly!

Cheers!

[mЯ Fcùķŋ ЯavėR]

well your 18, alot of 15 year old "sluts" say yes

[greekangel27]

lmao good point, point taken.

[.:MARK:.]

I just watched Hitch, watch that, youll be fine :)

[CoolDude]

Yeah Hitch is an interesting movie, offcourse the ending is typical Hollywood BS but everything else is real and available to guys right now...

[Emad]

^^ Dr. Phils on MU... So far everything i've read thats come out of Cool Dude, has been 100% Spot on... now thats smooth...

Also, i think attempting to pick up around Friends is what kills you the most because you dont wanna get rejected infront of them etc because half the times they make it worse.. Also to those who dont wanna look desperate, pfft.. what an excuse, thats no reason to not go out and pick up, never care about how you look to another person, as long as you think you look fine and how your portrayed to yourself is all fine and dandy then dont give a **** about what anybody else thinks.. Be Yourself, Be Confident and Be Happy, thats all that matters.

[CoolDude]

^^ Dr. Phils on MU... So far everything i've read thats come out of Cool Dude, has been 100% Spot on... now thats smooth...

Also, i think attempting to pick up around Friends is what kills you the most because you dont wanna get rejected infront of them etc because half the times they make it worse.. Also to those who dont wanna look desperate, pfft.. what an excuse, thats no reason to not go out and pick up, never care about how you look to another person, as long as you think you look fine and how your portrayed to yourself is all fine and dandy then dont give a **** about what anybody else thinks.. Be Yourself, Be Confident and Be Happy, thats all that matters.
Thanks dude!

Actually a simple and effective thing to do would be not going out to pick up with your mates who slow you down or laugh at you for trying to pick up.

I have many friends, cool guys, nerds, etc... with geeks I watch movies and talk about uni. With guys who like to pick up, I go out and meet chicks. Its that simple.

If someone finds it intimidating then I dont bother with them because they will ruin my night and slow me down.
So have a group of friends who support each other when it comes to meeting the ladies and if they dont then I just dont go out with them to pick up... they can be good mates to play sports with or go movies!

[Emad]

^^ Your so positive, never negative lol.

[Mickey]

I've realised that if you are confident and a smooth talker girls will be more likely to go for you. Still, in the end, it mainly comes down to looks. If you aren't good looking your chances of picking up ar ealways going to be lower.

[mЯ Fcùķŋ ЯavėR]

yes true today its just looks, if you got good looks, your all good, until it comes to a relationship. If your hopeless at that i feel sorry for you

[CoolDude]

I've realised that if you are confident and a smooth talker girls will be more likely to go for you. Still, in the end, it mainly comes down to looks. If you aren't good looking your chances of picking up ar ealways going to be lower.
Trust me even good looks get men nowhere... look at Brad Pit... he is stuck changing smelly dipers from not even his own kids... Angelina has his ass pussy whipped and he obbeys her like a good little boy.

On the other hand, women dont care so much about looks as you think, if you can evoke immense emotional feelings inside her (not by being an emo kid) but by listening to her and echoing back her values and having her respect you then she will fall for you even if you look like Jack Black.

As long as you look DECENT and not obese or disfigured then you will be ok... provided you know how seduction works.

[Thommo_Raver]

^buddy charms/sweet talking doesnt work in social situations; only on msn or on phone, and even so the girl would ask u for a pic, unless shes interested to hear you out, if your ugly she'll probbaly just try and ignore you

think of a relationship like a fire
sweet talking or personality is the wood or gas keeping that fire alive
however looks are what ignites that fire, with out ignition or good looks, there is no fire or relationship

lmao weird? sorry i jus pulled that out right now

[denis]

your kind of right, i hate to sound harsh but ugly people are rejected from society and i heard its scientifically proven that better looking people are more successful and confident in life,

CoolDude your advise is pretty spot on and you sound like you know what your talking about, but would you date a girl thats not good looking, even if she has that sex appeal?

[CoolDude]

^buddy charms/sweet talking doesnt work in social situations; only on msn or on phone, and even so the girl would ask u for a pic, unless shes interested to hear you out, if your ugly she'll probbaly just try and ignore you

think of a relationship like a fire
sweet talking or personality is the wood or gas keeping that fire alive
however looks are what ignites that fire, with out ignition or good looks, there is no fire or relationship

lmao weird? sorry i jus pulled that out right now

You have a lot to learn as far as women go... I urge you to start reading up now...

BTW I also urge you to stop trying to pick up on MSN and go out to underage clubs or to your mall to meet them... dating on MSN is e-dating... = fake. For all you know that "special girl" is a guy.

[CoolDude]

your kind of right, i to sound harsh but ugly people are rejected from society and i heard its scientifically proven that better looking people are more successful and confident in life,

CoolDude your advise is pretty spot on and you sound like you know what your talking about, but would you date a girl thats not good looking, even if she has that sex appeal?

Thank you Tease.

There are women who are not visually attractive but they have this sexual aura about them... yes. To be honest if I was single and had nothing better to do in the middle of a camping trip I would perhaps consider a one off sexual encounter with her but as far as dating goes, I need to be physically attracted to a girl before anything serious happens. Then its up to me to work out whether her values, goals and interests are common with mine...

Cos lets face it, good relationships = great sex, ability to connect on both surface and deep levels, share common ideas, interests and values. If there is only good sex present then perhaps being f*%$ buddies is a better option, or if you share the latter then perhaps just remain friends.

[Cole]

Trust me even good looks get men nowhere... look at Brad Pit... he is stuck changing smelly dipers from not even his own kids... Angelina has his ass pussy whipped and he obbeys her like a good little boy.

On the other hand, women dont care so much about looks as you think, if you can evoke immense emotional feelings inside her (not by being an emo kid) but by listening to her and echoing back her values and having her respect you then she will fall for you even if you look like Jack Black.

As long as you look DECENT and not obese or disfigured then you will be ok... provided you know how seduction works.


what I find in your posts are usually quite spot on, but are only speaking on behalf of a small minority of the 'teenage population.'
Teenagers, even myself, wouldn't appreciate girls personalities and emotional values as such, because when you're a teenager, it's where you're still learning about the non psychical side of relationships and can only be recognised and appreciated as an adult.

You need to think to yourself, would a typical 15 year old girl not go for looks? I don't think so.
Your advise is suited more to adults, seeming the new generation of girls nowadays are pretty superficial.

[denis]

Thank you Tease.

There are women who are not visually attractive but they have this sexual aura about them... yes. To be honest if I was single and had nothing better to do in the middle of a camping trip I would perhaps consider a one off sexual encounter with her but as far as dating goes, I need to be physically attracted to a girl before anything serious happens. Then its up to me to work out whether her values, goals and interests are common with mine...

exactly, you would only consider to have a relationship with someone that is physically attractive,

and cole is quite correct, girls and be pretty cruel these days,

[CoolDude]

what I find in your posts are usually quite spot on, but are only speaking on behalf of a small minority of the 'teenage population.'
Teenagers, even myself, wouldn't appreciate girls personalities and emotional values as such, because when you're a teenager, it's where you're still learning about the non psychical side of relationships and can only be recognised and appreciated as an adult.

You need to think to yourself, would a typical 15 year old girl not go for looks? I don't think so.
Your advise is suited more to adults, seeming the new generation of girls nowadays are pretty superficial.
I agree with you here, younger girls under the age of 18 are actually shallow and go after guys who are the worst to date (bullies at school, tough guys etc).
When they hit 18 yo they seem to mature and change their views.
So yes younger girls do go for looks as most young relationships are superficial and not serious. When women hit maturity they look past the looks.

Cheers.

[CoolDude]

exactly, you would only consider to have a relationship with someone that is physically attractive,

and cole is quite correct, girls and be pretty cruel these days,
Physical attraction sparks the relationship, it brings two people together. After that its all whats inside the head... :)

[Tekkaholic_Andre]

Tek: Why do you think Mike Jones picks-up?

Tek: Hes assertive, goes in without a worry, and acts asif hes in command

Inten: who's mike jones?"

Tek: uglyiest kent ever

Bahaha did i really say that :-s???

[Tekkaholic_Andre]

**Insert a bunch of Phil G stolen poo here**
Go awayyy...:( I'm the relationship Guru here :)
Now run along...You internet Bum!!!

[Tekkaholic_Andre]

Physical attraction sparks the relationship, it brings two people together. After that its all whats inside the head...:)
It may be that but whats inside is what makes them stay...

[denis]

i think thats what he ment.

[Tekkaholic_Andre]

^^Suk me off, Denny, u still owe me sum stuff LOL....Ill pik them up off ya when i can be flobberd..

[Emad]

^ Edit button Andre, you of all people should know what it is...

CoolDude, have my babys... now.

[denis]

i have the controler here :)
pick it up whenever.

[heidi]

Um...as much as you guys think you are right, unless you are planning on picking up each other, then you're not really.

[Miss Belle]

^^Thankgod someone said it :) I've never seen so many generalisations in the one thread!

[denis]

oh heidi the wisest of them all,

please we would love to hear some words of wisdom.

[heidi]

Yeah ok, it's really quite simple, just don't be scared.

[CoolDude]

Yeah ok, it's really quite simple, just don't be scared.
haha good advice :)

[shaheen]

Why do you have attractwomen.com.au in your name? are you working for them? think its against the rules to be promoting another site man.

[brown sugar miki]

and cole is quite correct, girls and be pretty cruel these days,
and guys are soooo much better.

[Mickey]

Trust me even good looks get men nowhere... look at Brad Pit... he is stuck changing smelly dipers from not even his own kids... Angelina has his ass pussy whipped and he obbeys her like a good little boy.

On the other hand, women dont care so much about looks as you think, if you can evoke immense emotional feelings inside her (not by being an emo kid) but by listening to her and echoing back her values and having her respect you then she will fall for you even if you look like Jack Black.

As long as you look DECENT and not obese or disfigured then you will be ok... provided you know how seduction works.

You missed the point of my post. I never said that you had to be awesome looking, I just said that looks definately increase your chances with the majority of girls. And also, we are talking about inside an underage. You aren't going to have a discussion with her for twenty minutes so that she can get to know you better. She'll look at you and decide then and there if she wants to dance with you. Not in twenty minutes after you've had a nice long chat with her.

[denis]

and guys are soooo much better.
most guys.

[shaheen]

Thank you Tease.
Cos lets face it, good relationships = great sex, ability to connect on both surface and deep levels, share common ideas, interests and values. If there is only good sex present then perhaps being f*%$ buddies is a better option, or if you share the latter then perhaps just remain friends.


Sex isn't everything, maybe you should quit promoting for attractwomen.com.au. Who are you anyway?!

Trust me even good looks get men nowhere... look at Brad Pit... he is stuck changing smelly dipers from not even his own kids... Angelina has his ass pussy whipped and he obbeys her like a good little boy.

On the other hand, women dont care so much about looks as you think, if you can evoke immense emotional feelings inside her (not by being an emo kid) but by listening to her and echoing back her values and having her respect you then she will fall for you even if you look like Jack Black.

As long as you look DECENT and not obese or disfigured then you will be ok... provided you know how seduction works.


Lol, so you're know Brad Pitts PR? how do you know he isn't a father cause he wants to be? you're advice is always on extremes, one minute you make sense next minute its complete bullshit.

[greekangel27]

shaheen, respect.

I agree with you here, younger girls under the age of 18 are actually shallow and go after guys who are the worst to date (bullies at school, tough guys etc). When they hit 18 yo they seem to mature and change their views.

err, no. what a crock of shite, generalisation after generalisation. please!

i recently turned 18, and no, i did not magically undergo a transformation in my sleep that triggered off a little knob in my head "OHH it's time to stop being shallow and change your views."

you know why??

because it MAY just be possible that i wasn't a shallow young girl to begin with.

so, either say it right and without generalisations, or don't say it at all. otherwise you'll piss people off ...

[Cole]

he should have changed "actually" to "generally" and everybody would be happier.

[greekangel27]

it makes a big difference.